Transforming “What Ifs” from Anxiety-Provoking to Possibility-Making

For all of the years I’ve been a psychologist and coach, I’ve watched people torture themselves with “what-ifs”.  They pose dire questions to themselves about upsetting things, then get mired in the anxiety those questions have provoked.  “What if my spouse dies?”, “What if I

Transforming “What Ifs” from Anxiety-Provoking to Possibility-Making

For all of the years I’ve been a psychologist and coach, I’ve watched people torture themselves with “what-ifs”.  They pose dire questions to themselves about upsetting things, then get mired in the anxiety those questions have provoked.  “What if my spouse dies?”, “What if I